There’s No Right Way to Grieve

But Here Are a Few Things That Might Help

Grief doesn’t follow a straight line. It’s more like a wave — sometimes gentle, sometimes wild, often unexpected.

Whether you’re in Ballina, Byron Bay, Lismore, or a quiet pocket of the Northern Rivers, the experience of losing someone you love can leave you feeling unmoored.

There’s no “normal” way to grieve, and no right way to do it. Still, there are things that might help ease the edges of sorrow — not to fix it, but to offer comfort and support.

Here are a few gentle suggestions, from someone who works alongside grieving families every day.

Say their name

It can feel strange to say the name of someone who has died — but it’s often the most comforting thing to hear. Talking about them keeps their memory alive and helps us make sense of what’s happened.

Invite others to speak freely too. Shared memories have a way of anchoring us.

Create small rituals

You don’t need to hold a formal ceremony to honour your person. Simple acts — lighting a candle, playing their favourite song, watering their plants — can become private moments of connection.

These rituals aren’t about performance. They’re about remembrance.

Let yourself off the hook

You might find yourself forgetful, exhausted, irritable, or even laughing at something you think you shouldn’t. It’s all normal. Grief affects every part of us — body, mind, and spirit.

Go easy. You’re doing the best you can.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help

Whether it’s a friend to sit with you, a GP to check in on your health, or a counsellor to talk things through — you don’t have to carry this alone.

Help can be quiet. Help can be simple. But it’s always okay to ask.

If you're navigating grief in the Northern Rivers, please know I’m here to support you. Whether you need someone to talk to or want help creating a meaningful memorial, I’m just a call away.

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